This post is all about prayers after miscarriage.
I’ve suffered seven consecutive pregnancy losses in my lifetime. Seven.
That number, that amount of loss… does something to a person.
It made me question God’s intention. It’s made me question His love. And it sure as heck drove me down a road of grief I almost didn’t return from.
I’ve had some pretty dark days, friends. I won’t lie to you and say that I was able to keep it all in perspective and maintain positivity with the knowledge that yet another one of my precious babies was going to Heaven before I would even know them.
I’ll be the first to admit that I was angry and resentful towards God.
Such loss is more than the human spirit should endure, you know what I mean? People say God doesn’t give us more than we can handle, but it sure felt like he put that cliché to the test.
However, even in my deepest stages of grief, God was there. He sat with me in my pain, and he loved me through my anger with him.
I know in my heart of hearts that the only way I was able to survive my miscarriages was because of the prayers and encouragement of my husband, friends, and family. They were lifting me up to God every chance they got, and it made all the difference.
So today, I’d like to talk about the healing power of prayer, and more specifically, miscarriage prayer.
If you’re currently suffering the loss of your baby or have experienced a miscarriage in the past, offering your burdens to God through prayer can be transformational to the grieving process.
When I feel negative emotions welling up in me, and I can’t seem to get out of my own head, I turn to some of my favorite Bible verses about God’s healing power, like Psalm 147:3:
“He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.”
Praying after my miscarriages bound up my wounds and allowed me to feel God’s grace and comfort, and miscarriage prayers can do the same for you.
The Power of Prayer During a Miscarriage
For me, prayer is an essential part of the healing process.
While I also tended to my physical body and was gentle with myself during recovery, regular communication with God helped me tremendously.
You can find all kinds of research results on the internet when you Google the power of prayer, but I find it funny that people think they can measure God’s power.
Whether or not prayer has been scientifically proven to cure illnesses and bring back the dead, there are still many benefits of praying to God about your miscarriage (and anything else, for that matter).
Miscarriage Prayers Take Our Focus Off of Ourselves
When you suffer a miscarriage, it’s very normal to retreat into yourself for a while. I frequently had thoughts that were very much centered on myself, like:
No one can possibly know what it’s like to lose a baby.
No one understands what I’m going through.
I just want everyone to leave me alone.
However, when I started to pray to God regularly after my miscarriage, He helped me to change my perspective. I was reminded that those around me were there to support and love me, and they were grieving along with me (just in a different way).
A Miscarriage Prayer Invites God Into Your Life
Imagine for a minute that you and your spouse only talk once a month. Maybe once a year. Is it reasonable to expect that you’ll have a close relationship with them? Will you feel supported and encouraged with that once-in-a-while interaction?
Of course not!
The same is true in your relationship with God. Regular talks with God, especially as you’re recovering from a pregnancy loss, are essential to feeling his presence.
He is there always, but you will feel closer to him the more you lean on and trust in His love.
A Miscarriage Prayer Creates Peace in Our Hearts
John 14:27 says, “Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.”
The most significant benefit of my prayers after miscarriage was the peace that God put on my heart when everything seemed so hopeless. I don’t know the reasoning behind the loss of my babies, but I do know that it wasn’t because God wanted me to suffer.
If we listen to the world’s statistics about our pregnancy losses and forget that we have hope and redemption in God, we’re almost certainly going to be angry and resentful.
But if we allow Him to leave us with His peace and trust in His plan, it will help to ease our troubles and focus on the here and now.
to Give Hope and Healing
I know that when you suffer a miscarriage, it’s not always easy to find the words you want to say to God.
So to help you, I’ve included some of my favorite Bible verses and a short miscarriage prayer to go along with each one.
And the God of all grace, who called you to his eternal Glory in Christ, after you have suffered a little while, will himself restore you and make you strong, firm, and steadfast.
– 1 Peter 5:10
God in Heaven, I’ve been so angry since my miscarriage, and I’ve blamed you. I’ve screamed at you and asked you why this has happened to me. I’ve accused you of awful things. And even after all that, you bestow your infinite grace upon me. You patiently wait for me to return to you, and you open your arms wide. Those same arms have welcomed my baby into Heaven, and I can rest in the knowledge that they are by your side. Please restore my strength and faith, God. Help me to continue leaning on loved ones, friends, and your Word.
For You created my inmost being; You knit me in my mother’s womb. I praise You because I am fearfully and wonderfully made.
– Psalm 139:13-14
God, I’ve had such doubts lately. I feel like something is horribly wrong with me that my body can’t hold onto the life my husband and I have created. Am I too weak, Lord? Is this punishment for my past sins? So many times, I have to remind myself that you are the God of miracles, the God of love. You’ve known my life’s direction from the moment I was conceived, and you have amazing plans in store for me. You make me strong and resilient, and I am fearfully and wonderfully made.
The Lord is near to the broken-hearted and saves those crushed in spirit
God, I feel so alone in my loss. My heart is broken, and I mourn for the loss of the baby I’ll never get to rock to sleep, get to see their first steps or get to watch grow up. My spirit feels crushed beyond repair. Please stay with me, Lord. Heal me with your lovingkindness and wisdom. Help me see that the journey of my life will bring you glory.
Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day. For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.
– 2 Corinthians 4:16-18
Father in Heaven, I have cried more tears than I thought was possible. I’m mourning the loss of a beautiful, tiny life that did nothing to hurt anyone. I’ve asked you “WHY?” a thousand times, and I still don’t have your answer. Please help me be at peace with the “not knowing.” Please help me to fix my eyes on You and remember this life and its troubles are temporary. My sweet angel is waiting for me to join them one day in Heaven, and then we’ll be together forever.
You have recorded my troubles. You have kept a list of my tears. Aren’t they in your records?
– Psalm 56:8
God, I’ve been full of self-pity lately. There have been several times where I’ve felt that you don’t even care about my grief, about my loss. After all, am I really that important? I’ve never felt more insignificant in my entire life, and I can’t get out of my own head, Lord. I just keep thinking of my unborn child, my precious angel. My sorrow is overwhelming, God. Please keep reminding me of the sparrow and how much you care for even the least of beings. You have not abandoned me, nor have you ignored my troubles. You’ve written them down in your heart, and you are always near.
For the Lord will not cast off forever, but, though he cause grief, he will have compassion according to the abundance of his steadfast love; for he does not willingly afflict or grieve the children of men.
– Lamentations 3:31-33
God, please help me remember that although you allow grief into my life, it doesn’t cause you any joy. You didn’t intentionally make me have a miscarriage, and you experience heartache right alongside me. Your love is abundant and enduring, God, and you want only good for me. I know this, even on the most challenging days. Thank you for loving me, Lord. Thank you for watching over my little one until I’m reunited with them in Heaven.
Miscarriage prayers will not suddenly make everything better.
Nothing will do that.
You’ve suffered an unimaginable loss, and it will take you some time to come to terms with your grief.
Just remember that in your darkest moments, God is the light. He will never abandon you, and his strength surpasses all imagination.
You are loved. Just remember that.